WHO YOU ARE is a Sum of ......

Have you ever heard the phrase,

"WHO YOU ARE is a sum of the people you spend the most time with?" 👭

When I first heard this phrase many years ago (about 17 years ago), I was leading a seminar on the topic. It blew me away because when I looked around at my life, this was 100% true for me. All of my friends made about the same amount of money, we all had about the same complaints, and the same agreements, etc. When I realized this, I understood why I had been stuck in my life. I decided I wanted more and needed to change my environment. Specifically, I needed to change the people I hung out with.

This realization wasn’t easy and was not a decision I took lightly.

I started by looking at the relationships that supported me, stretched me, and made me a better person - those I wanted to keep!

Next, I looked at the relationships that didn’t support me and to tell you the truth, they dragged me down. I think we can all relate to this.

Who are the people in your life that keep you small?

When I went to lead this conversation with 300+ people one night, I shared that sometimes in life you have to be willing to walk away from people who no longer serve you and your journey. At that point, a woman stood up and was very angry with me. She said that I need to be more loyal to people and care more about the people in my life. She said you don’t just walk away from people in your life because you want more out of life.

Believe me when I tell you I completely understand. Moving on from relationships that hold you back in life might be the hardest thing for anyone to do. But when is it okay? When is it okay to let go of the people who tell you that you aren’t good enough, or the ones who get jealous of your success and want to drag you back down? Or maybe they just have limiting beliefs that you hear over and over again that are impacting you.

Maybe this isn’t actually an issue for you. Maybe you love and feel supported by everyone in your life but YOU feel stuck. It’s time to be HIGH-VIBE!! If you want more, you’ve got to BE MORE!

In order to be more, you must garner your thoughts, who is in your space, and what you listen to. What is the information going into your mind day in and day out? Does it lift you up and inspire you or hold you back and make you question yourself?

Are you listening to authors who think big and inspire you, or are you listening to the news?

Are you listening to people who dream big and want the best for you, or are you listening to people who stay safe and want you to do the same?

If you want more in life, you’ve got to BE MORE!

By the way, once I took action to change my environment, everything started to shift for me. I started making more money, I was happier, and I had a growth mindset consistently. I hired a coach and only listened to audiobooks, podcasts, and YouTubers that made me feel good and stretched me out of my comfort zone.

I invite you to find some mentors, authors, podcasters, YouTubers, etc. who inspire you. They cause you to think differently, they have the success you want (in all areas of life), and listen to them often. Allow them to change your thoughts and raise your vibration.

These people (even if you never meet them in person) will become part of your environment and what you fill your brain with.

So, who are the people that you will surround yourself with to lift you up and have you get HIGH-VIBE and stay that way? I invite you to take one bold action today!

You are amazing and can accomplish big things! UP and only UP, my friend!